Child #1: Once I figured out the whole family bed I-can-feed-her-and-still-sleep thing, she slept with us every night. During the day, unless we were in the car or somebody else was holding her, I held her while she slept. At night, she turned in when we turned in and shared our bed. By the time seven months rolled around, I was ready and DH was ready to have our bed back. She cried it out, and has been sleeping almost perfectly by herself since.
Child #2: Decided I didn't want to sleep all the time with him. Attempted getting him to sleep in his bassinet, but almost always brought him to bed with me right when I went to bed. He spent a lot of time sleeping in the swing and in his carseat. He also took a bottle and I gave him one. A lot. Let him cry it out around six months. Overall, still sleeps great (naps a bit of a challenge...)
Child #3: During the big move, found out she loved sleeping in the car seat with it covered, with the bathroom vent fan running. Used mostly that method (+ coming to bed with us halfway through the night) until we moved into our house. Now she sleeps 90% of the time in her bassinet. When she wakes up in the night, I usually bring her to bed with us. Just turned five months and is sleeping longer on her own much earlier than the other kids.
So... does it make me a better mom to PJ because she is sleeping in her bassinet? Or am I becoming a worse mom because I don't hold her all the time and just snuggle her? Was I a better mom to the Simster because I got him to take a bottle? Or a worse mom because I stopped nursing him around 7 months? Was I the best with the Bubbs because I held her a ton or worst with her because she didn't sleep on her own for a long time? Is it partially the personality of the kids that affects how they sleep (nature) or just my mothering (nurture)? Just a conundrum I was thinking about. I actually feel pretty good about all three of my kids and their sleeping (except when they're supposed to be taking a nap and they're doing this instead), but I do feel that conflicted-ness of giving all your kids the same amount of attention, love, boundaries, etc.
In other news, PJ laughed (a little one) for the first time yesterday! And last night before I went to bed, I heard a light switch turn on, the pitter-patter of little feet, another light come on, and then, after a little bit, the sound of a flush. Then the sink water running, the light turns off, pitter-patter, the other light off, and the creak of the bed. I was such a proud mama! The Bubbs is getting so old - she's going to the potty in the night without any assistance from me! I can't believe it. Before I know it, she'll be driving. And probably hitting a parked car. :) It's so fun to watch my kids grow!
Anyway, this is now long. And it's late. So on that note, good night folks. :) Hope you're having a good one!